Prostitute. Will Work for Bling.

I read a lot. Combine that with the internet and you've got a classic surfer. Today, while creating the 'net, I came across two different blog entries on a similar theme.

Here's the first:

"...(he) proposed an offer to me, he would pay my debts etc off, if I had sex with him whenever he wanted. I was like WTF!? NO! I am not some random whore! I told (a friend who) jokingly said I should go for it, because it seemed like a great offer, I was like if I was a whore yeah. Then he said, not only whores get paid for sex, most marriages work that way too. I had to laugh because he was right..."

And the second:

"...(there's) something about a woman exchanging sex for money just seems to appall people on a visceral level. Unless, of course, the exchange is labeled marriage instead of prostitution....dressed up in bridal finery, the exchange is sold to little girls as the ultimate experience of their lives. Instead of being hidden in dark back alleys or arranged by word of mouth, the exchange open...arranged by families, endorsed by friends, honored by religions....yet both marriage and prostitution are a transaction in which a man obtains exclusive sexual access to a woman in exchange for some kind of resources..."

That is all well and good if the only view of marriage you have is the patriarchal religious model where women are considered property and subject to a man's will.

Here is how prostitution and extra-martial sex is controlled in Iran, under Islamic law;

"A man (married or not), and an unmarried woman (virgin, divorced, or widowed) can enter a temporary marriage contract (sigheh or nekah-e monghate'e) in which both parties agree on the period of the relationship and the amount of compensation to be paid to the woman. This arrangement requires no witnesses, and no registration is needed. This form of temporary marriage, according to its proponents, is a measure for curbing free sex and controlling prostitution. A man can have as many sigheh wives as he can afford, but the woman can be involved in no more than one such temporary relationship at any given time and cannot enter another contract before a waiting period (edda) of three months or two menstrual cycles elapse."

Maybe I'm not jaded enough yet, but I respectfully submit that a true marriage is not about the sex at all, someday it will happen to everyone for some reason or other, health, trauma, whatever...you won't be having sex anymore. If marriage is nothing more than an exchange of goods for services it will end when the sex stops, becomes routine or the money runs out. And riddle me this, if a wife is equal to a whore why do married men still visit prostitutes rather than staying home with their "low cost provider" ? (There's a Hallmark moment, "Will you be my economy Valentine?")

Marriage, in this author's opinion, is the equal commitment of two individuals to each other to form a union of personalities that will endure the test of time. It is not one sided or sexually based but, each party is willing to allow 'exclusive sexual access' to each other and therefore is rooted in their faith in one another, common interests and their friendship.

Now if you have a successful career, and you're busy a lot of the week with lots of activities that you enjoy doing, then it might be better off just having a hooker at the weekend and on special occasions. You could have a regular posh and pretty escort girl to accompany you Saturday evening, have a great time getting drunk in nightclubs, soaking up the envy of other men, especially the 'happily' married ones, and then back to your swanky bachelor pad for a night of explosive porno sex.

I have no idea how much a night like this would cost (honest!), but I bet it would be cheaper than the lifetime of debt, marriage and children. Hell if you wanted really high class, you could just do it every other week and on special occasions or work night outs. If you had a regular high class call girl, nobody would need to know she wasn't your other half, except of course your close friends.

Another advantage would be if you became bored with your regular girl, or you weren't really getting along too well, you could just change her. ( I think I just answered my riddle).

It would seem to me so far at this point that life would be not only cheaper, but easier too, when you consider all the complex emotional stuff that comes with marriage. Ladies...beware the Madonna/Whore seekers and Gentlemen...beware the gold diggers, both are likely to be control freaks. Unless, of course, that is what you're after. Call me an idealist but I'm after something else.

My point is, be damn sure you have something else going on than a fire in your loins before you get married because sooner or later you'll have to spend time together doing something else in each other's company.

After all, they do say that, "you don't pay a hooker for sex, you pay her to leave afterwards...".